It’s a paradox, isn’t it, that most highly-educated, accomplished people working in professional services such as law and finance struggle with confidence? It’s one of… Read More »Why telling juniors to be more confident doesn’t work (and what to say instead)
Coping with life
We’re obsessed with imposter syndrome, aren’t we? There’s always someone going on about it. President Biden even got in on the act recently, saying he… Read More »You don’t have imposter syndrome. You want to be an outsider.
It’s bloody horrible at the moment isn’t it?
Over the course of a week or so we’ve gone from a relatively normal existence (albeit with worries about developments in other countries) to total lockdown. And even though we had an inkling that this was coming, the reality has sent many of us into shock. There’s still a part of me when I go to sleep at night that thinks that maybe when I wake up it will all have been a nightmare and we’ll all go back to talking about Brexit. But we know now that it won’t – this thing is here for the long haul and we have to try to learn a way to live in this new reality. So how do we do it?Read More »Coping in the time of Corona
“HAIR IS EVERYTHING”
We all secretly knew this to be true but it took Fleabag for us to know we knew it.
Clearly it’s not the only lesson to take from that programme (the main one being that, if that’s what priests look like these days, we need to start going to church a bit more…) but it really stuck with me, not least cos of my own experiences.Read More »“What the hell have you done to my hair?” and other awkward conversations
“How can I learn to become more resilient?”
Clients often ask this in their first therapy session. They tell me that they find it hard to cope with setbacks and they set ‘achieving’ resilience as their ‘goal’ for therapy. It’s one of those buzz words like mindfulness that has been floating around for the past few years and many organisations and businesses have also cottoned on to this trend, offering training on how their staff can become more resilient.Read More »Developing resilience and why it’s not about becoming a ‘hard-a**’
Every so often you get those times when a certain phrase plays over and over in your head. For me at the moment it’s about comparing my ‘insides’ to other’s ‘outsides’.Read More »Comparing your ‘insides’ with everyone else’s ‘outsides’…when your days aren’t so merry and bright
Having been invited back to Oxford University recently to attend a dinner for former students, I returned to catch up with some old friends and to revisit some old haunts.Read More »‘Dreaming Spires’ and the myth of “the mistake”