Grief and Divorce: Losing More Than Just a Marriage

Grief and Divorce: Losing More Than Just a Marriage

Reflections on Loss When someone goes through a divorce, they often experience grief, but it’s not just the end of a marriage. It’s far more than that. For many, the loss is layered—so deep and complex that they may not even realise how many aspects of their...
Nobody said it was easy

Nobody said it was easy

Nobody said it was easy. No one ever said it would be this hard…” No, Chris Martin of Coldplay wasn’t singing about having kids in this line from their song ‘The Scientist’… but he may as well have been. Not another post moaning about how hard it is to have kids, I...
Therapists shouldn’t talk about themselves

Therapists shouldn’t talk about themselves

Therapists shouldn’t talk about themselves. Yesterday was a tricky one. The second anniversary of my dad’s death. And for a variety of reasons it got me thinking about self-disclosure. It’s a weird, unconventional thing for a therapist to do. It can interfere with the...
The Circle of Life: Reflections on Remembrance Sunday

The Circle of Life: Reflections on Remembrance Sunday

As a child, I often found myself switching off when my dad started “going on” about Remembrance Sunday. It was that classic youthful rebellion—rejecting anything to do with history, duty, or sacrifice, and of course, anything my parents told me to care...
The Politics of Therapy, A Reflection

The Politics of Therapy, A Reflection

This morning, many people woke up grappling with disappointment and fear about the US election results. As a therapist, I often get a unique window into the lives of people navigating such moments—different worlds, different viewpoints, all wrestling with the...