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Staying Sane in Family Law

A Survival Guide for Lawyers Working in the Most Emotionally Charged Practice Area

Our founder, Annmarie’s debut book, Staying Sane in Family Law, is out now! Click here to buy the book. It’s a deeply practical and refreshingly honest guide for anyone in the family law world on how to navigate the emotional intensity of practice (with a big dollop of humour!). Family law asks a lot of lawyers - compassion, clarity, resilience, emotional control, and mental stamina. Burnout, vicarious trauma and overwhelm are often part of the job. This book helps you stay steady, human, and effective in the middle of it all. Inside, she shares:

  • Tools to protect your mental health
  • Strategies for building emotional resilience
  • Ways to keep boundaries with difficult or distressed clients
  • Real-world stories from the frontline (Annmarie's included)

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Burnout in Legal Professions
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Burnout and Vicarious Trauma in Legal Professions

Burnout and vicarious trauma are overlooked risks in legal work. Understand how trauma exposure affects lawyers, and what’s needed for sustainable practice.

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Mental heaviness, intrusive images, emotional numbness, sudden anxiety, and a shrinking sense of safety. This is a daily risk for some working in legal sector jobs who face their clients' traumas and fight on their behalf.

A recent study found that approximately 15% of mental health professionals report high levels of vicarious trauma, especially during periods of increased stress, such as the COVID-19 pandemic. This form of trauma, which mirrors symptoms of PTSD, results from repeated exposure to clients’ traumatic experiences and can significantly impact both the well-being of providers and the quality of care they deliver.

Vicarious trauma is one of the most overlooked risks in the legal profession. Many lawyers absorb distressing material as part of their daily work, yet receive little education on the psychological implications. Unlike other helping professions, the legal sector rarely provides structured training on trauma, emotional regulation, or the long-term impact of hearing clients’ most painful experiences.

Burnout and vicarious trauma often develop simultaneously, feeding into each other in ways that are subtle but cumulatively damaging. Understanding this overlap is essential for sustainable practice, so let’s look at the crossover here.

What Vicarious Trauma Is and How It Differs from Burnout

Rarely one will come in that shakes me to my core; hard enough to see on paper, but even more difficult to process when the client verifies the allegations contained therein.

We usually get the “good” clients but this was CPS vault material. I’m dreading going in tomorrow because I don’t feel like I can work on this case. It’s sickening to me. I tend to be good at compartmentalizing but this feels impossible and honestly I feel like my soul has been crushed. There’s no pretzel logic that can make this defensible.”

  • [User Redacted], Reddit

Defining Vicarious Trauma

The British Medical Association describes vicarious trauma as “a process of change resulting from empathetic engagement with trauma survivors. Anyone who engages empathetically with survivors of traumatic incidents, torture, and material relating to their trauma, is potentially affected, including doctors and other health professionals.”

Vicarious trauma refers to the emotional residue that arises from repeated exposure to others’ trauma. It is especially common in practice areas where lawyers routinely engage with distressing material, including:

  • Family law
  • Criminal law
  • Immigration and asylum
  • Clinical negligence

At TCC, we frequently observe this pattern through therapeutic supervision work with lawyers in these fields, where emotional load is a defining aspect of the role.

How Burnout and Vicarious Trauma Intersect

While burnout arises from chronic workplace stress, vicarious trauma develops through emotional absorption. When combined, they:

  • Intensify emotional exhaustion
  • Heighten irritability and cognitive fatigue
  • Reduce resilience and coping capacity
  • Increase feelings of helplessness or futility

Burnout depletes resources; vicarious trauma distorts emotional processing. Together, they create a significant risk for long-term psychological strain.

Why Lawyers Are Particularly Vulnerable

Lawyers are exposed to traumatic material without many of the buffers used in clinical professions, such as:

  • Regular supervision
  • Organised reflective practice
  • Emotional debriefing protocols
  • Training on trauma-informed communication

Trauma and emotional burden are often overlooked or minimised by those around legal professionals. Senior staff may become desensitised to its impact, loved ones may not grasp the severity of the material lawyers work with, and colleagues may dismiss visible strain as personal weakness. Yet, as research across human-service professions shows, repeatedly listening to, observing, and documenting traumatic events carries real psychological risks. Legal practitioners, particularly those working closely with victims, witnesses, or vulnerable clients, can absorb distress in ways that affect their wellbeing, performance, and sense of self. Despite this, the emotional impact of legal work is frequently treated as incidental rather than intrinsic, contributing to a professional culture where vicarious trauma is under-recognised and often stigmatised. This lack of acknowledgement leaves lawyers more vulnerable to cumulative stress, trauma saturation, and deterioration in mental health, especially in environments without trauma-informed practices or supportive policies.

The Nature of Trauma Exposure in Legal Practice

Let’s look at how trauma exposure shows up in the work lives of legal professionals.

1. Long-Term Contact with Distressing Client Narratives

Lawyers may encounter:

  • Accounts of domestic abuse, coercive control, and child neglect
  • Violent crime descriptions, witness statements, and graphic evidence
  • Stories of persecution, loss, displacement, and fear
  • Medical trauma or catastrophic injury narratives in negligence matters

These stories could be offloaded in a matter of hours, or unfold live over months or years, increasing emotional proximity.

2. The Pressure to Stay Neutral and “Professional”

Lawyers are expected to maintain composure regardless of content. This typically involves:

  • Emotional suppression
  • Avoidance of visible reactions
  • Compartmentalisation to protect client trust

Behaving in this way produces a physical response that directly impacts mental health. Physically, emotional suppression triggers the body’s stress response. Heart rate increases, breathing becomes shallow, and muscles tighten as the body works to contain internal reactions. Stress hormones such as cortisol and adrenaline rise, but without any outlet, they remain elevated for longer. Over time, this constant restraint fatigues the nervous system, contributing to headaches, tension, digestive discomfort, and a persistent sense of internal pressure.

While necessary in the moment, suppression increases internal load and reduces opportunities to process emotional content.

3. The Moral Weight of Legal Decision-Making

Lawyers frequently carry responsibility for matters with profound consequences for clients:

  • Child arrangements
  • Criminal sentencing
  • Deportation outcomes
  • Clinical negligence compensation affecting long-term living standards

Imagine a family lawyer representing a parent in a high-risk child arrangements case. They may feel immense pressure knowing that their submissions could influence whether a child remains in a safe environment. The emotional weight of that responsibility heightens identification and internal strain.

Or an immigration lawyer preparing evidence for an asylum hearing may feel overwhelming pressure knowing that a negative decision could result in a client’s deportation to danger. The moral burden of such consequences could create deep emotional absorption and vicarious trauma risk.

How Vicarious Trauma Shows Up in Lawyers’ Lives

The effects of vicarious trauma vary, but common symptoms include:

Emotional Symptoms
  • Hypervigilance
  • Irritability or quickness to anger
  • Emotional numbness
  • Heightened sensitivity or mood swings
Cognitive and Behavioural Symptoms
  • Intrusive thoughts relating to case material
  • Avoidance behaviours (certain clients, topics, or tasks)
  • Withdrawal from colleagues or social contact
  • Reduced empathy, which may appear as detachment or cynicism
Impact on Personal Identity
  • Changes in worldview (greater distrust, pessimism, or fear)
  • Strained relationships due to emotional depletion
  • Difficulty “coming down” after work
  • A sense that personal and professional identities are becoming blurred

Organisational Blind Spots that Exacerbate Trauma-Related Burnout

Many law firms unintentionally reinforce trauma-related burnout by overlooking the emotional realities of legal work. Key contributing factors include:

  • Limited training on managing trauma exposure
  • Little or no preparation for working with vulnerability, hostility, or high emotion
  • Lack of trauma-informed lawyering skills
  • Absence of reflective practice or supervision to process difficult material
  • No routine emotional debriefing after distressing cases or client interactions
  • Normalisation of emotional suppression as “professionalism”
  • High caseloads combined with high emotional intensity
  • Workflows that make trauma exposure continuous rather than occasional
  • Limited opportunities to flag early warning signs of emotional strain
  • Cultures that prioritise output over wellbeing, leaving little time for recovery
  • Insufficient leadership modelling of healthy emotional boundaries
  • A tendency to minimise or dismiss the emotional impact of traumatic material
  • Limited team cohesion, making shared emotional load less likely
  • Lack of organisational recognition that vicarious trauma is an occupational risk
  • No formal policies supporting trauma-informed practice
  • Stigma around discussing emotional impact, discouraging help-seeking
  • Performance structures that reward overextension rather than sustainability
  • Insufficient access to specialist training on trauma and high-emotion environments
  • Lack of accessible supervision structures for junior and senior lawyers alike
  • Minimal organisational responsibility for monitoring trauma exposure

Being aware of these factors, being able to pinpoint them, is the critical first step to untangling burnout and vicarious trauma and creating a healthier legal workplace.

What Lawyers Need to Mitigate Vicarious Trauma

Managing vicarious trauma requires both personal tools and organisational structures. No amount of individual resilience can compensate for systemic gaps, so lawyers and employers must approach this work collaboratively.

1. Trauma-Informed Skill Development

Lawyers can benefit from developing skills that help them recognise and regulate their emotional responses to difficult material. These include:

  • Recognising early emotional overload: noticing irritability, cognitive fog, or detachment before they escalate.
  • Building healthy boundaries with clients: maintaining empathy without over-identifying with their experiences.
  • Understanding triggers and responses: being aware of which topics, case types, or client behaviours create internal stress.
  • Developing grounding techniques: simple, repeatable strategies to stabilise the nervous system after distressing interactions.

These skills can be learned and strengthened through coaching, therapy, or tailored training. TCC offers specialist coaching designed specifically for lawyers managing high-stress and emotionally demanding roles.

2. Access to Specialist Support

Trauma exposure cannot be processed through willpower alone. Legal professionals need confidential spaces where they can safely reflect on the emotional impact of their work. Useful support options include:

  • Individual therapy: to process emotional load, develop coping mechanisms, and maintain long-term psychological balance.
  • Therapeutic supervision: an ongoing space to examine client impact, case dynamics, and emotional strain with a trained professional.
  • Couple therapy: for situations where work stress or trauma exposure begins to affect relationships at home.

These supports are especially valuable in trauma-heavy practice areas. TCC’s therapists are former legal professionals, meaning they understand the pressures, culture, and emotional realities of legal work from lived experience.

3. Organisational Responsibility

Employers play a crucial role in preventing and managing vicarious trauma. Appropriate structures reduce individual burden and promote long-term sustainability. Helpful organisational measures include:

  • Normalising emotional processing as a professional skill: making it acceptable to discuss impact rather than expecting emotional neutrality.
  • Providing regular supervision or reflective practice: creating structured opportunities for staff to debrief and process distressing material.
  • Offering training on trauma, emotional regulation, and working with vulnerable clients: giving teams the tools they were never formally taught.
  • Monitoring caseload distribution: ensuring that trauma-heavy work is not concentrated among a few individuals.
  • Encouraging sustainable working patterns: reinforcing boundaries, discouraging performative overwork, and modelling healthy behaviour at the senior level.

TCC supports organisations in building these foundations through wellbeing audits, culture reviews, and tailored business support programmes for legal teams.

Recognising Trauma as Part of the Job

Burnout and vicarious trauma are intertwined risks in areas of legal practice involving human distress. They don’t arise from personal weakness. They arise from the emotional realities of the work. Sustainable practice depends on acknowledging these pressures openly, building trauma-informed skills, and ensuring lawyers have access to appropriate support.

Recognising and addressing vicarious trauma is essential not only for lawyer wellbeing but also for the quality, integrity, and sustainability of legal practice. Firms that take emotional exposure seriously protect both their people and their long-term performance. If this resonates with you, talk to TCC.

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